BBC: The family of Champasingh Lama, who claims to have come to Humla from Fang Tungar in Tibet, has practiced polygamy for 17 generations. But now, according to his son and grandson, the practice has been dropped, Champasingh said. He said, “We four brothers have adopted the same wife.” Our sons refused. Everyone got married on their own. Everyone is on vacation.
Chodolma, the only wife of four brothers, gave birth to four sons and five daughters. All the children are married except the youngest son. According to Lama community leaders, the practice of polygamy, which was said to have been carried out from house to house in the Lama community nearly two decades ago, has recently become confined to a few families.
Rapadan Lama of Simkot Buranse says, “They are giving up this practice after the younger generation is educated. Now everyone is educated. Hence the practice of polygamy is disappearing.
Tanjan Lama, a young man pursuing a master’s degree in Kathmandu, says that time has changed the culture of polygamy. He said, ‘Education has taught us a lot. This culture has been taken badly by many people.”
Due to the complexity of polygamy and individual freedom, it is said that the younger generation has not been able to continue this culture. In the practice of polygamy, the brother who is married first, other siblings should also accept her as their wife. However, if the younger or other siblings are 8-10 years of age or older, they are allowed to marry unmarried.
In the Lama community, it was customary for the eldest brother to marry by request or preference and for the second brother to accept him as his wife. However, over the years, with the development of education and consciousness, the leaders of the Lama community claim that the practice is declining due to quarrels and quarrels between brothers who have only one wife.
In the past, it was customary to raise goats, goats, goats and goats for trade and commerce. At that time one brother was in business, some were in sheep shelter, some were somewhere, even if only one wife got married, brothers could not live together forever.
“Since we live in different places, we used to come home on time,” says Champassin Lama, 80. Now you don’t need to go out to do animal husbandry and business.” It is said that many youths now give up the practice of polygamy and start monogamous marriages, as it is difficult for them to live together.
It is customary in the Lama community to go to Chindo to ask for a girl with Chiang. Apart from Chindo, the Rapadan Lama says that if he goes to ask for a girl with chiang in other dishes, he will be less recognized. “Only in a house where it is fully confident that a girl will be born, the boy’s side goes to ask for a girl,” he says, “but sometimes a house that believes a daughter will not.”
It is said that women who have faced polygamy have health issues and sometimes suffer due to quarrels between brothers. He says that in polygamy like women, men also have to face different problems. When a wife lives with her beloved brother, the other brothers suffer in old age.
In polygamy, the daughter of the household becomes the wife and she is the one who appoints the husbands. In the case of children who are brothers, it is customary to designate only the eldest brother as the father.
Leaders of the Lama community claim that the ancestors adopted the practice of polygamy because there was no need to distribute movable property and the workload was reduced. In Namkha Municipality of Hamla District and other villages of Buranse, Torpa, Limtang, Bargone, Rimi, Dojam and Simkot Municipality, polygamy is gradually decreasing.
This practice is prevalent in various villages of Humla, Lamjung, Gorkha, Mustang, Manang, Humla, Jumla, Dolpa, Taplejung and other districts of Nepal.